Originally published as The awakened family : a revolution in parenting: United States of America : Viking Penguin, 2016.

Part One: A new awakening. Learning a new way ; How the culture sets up parents to fail ; The invisible triggers of our reactivity -- Part Two: Our parenting myths. Myth #1: Parenting is about the child ; Myth #2: A successful child is ahead of the curve ; Myth #3: There are good children and bad children ; Myth #4: Good parents are naturals ; Myth #5: A good parent is a loving one ; Myth #6: Parenting is about raising a happy child ; Myth #7: Parents need to be in control -- Part Three: Understanding our reactivity. Raising the real child ; What's really behind our reactions ; Transforming fear into consciousness -- Part Four: Transformative parenting skills. From expectations to engagement ; From mindless reaction to mindful presence ; From chaos to stillness ; From role to no-role ; From emotions to feelings ; From enmeshment to autonomy ; From judgment to empathy ; From discipline to enlightened boundaries ; From the battlefield to the negotiation table -- Epilogue: Shedding skin, shedding light -- Appendix: Thirty daily reminders to build consciousness.